About BAN

BAN – Beyond Affairs Network is an international network of local peer-to-peer support groups for betrayed spouses to help them deal with the devastating impact of a spouses affair, make informed decisions, and move positively through the healing process.  PLEASE NOTE:  BAN is ONLY for the BETRAYED SPOUSE and is not a group for the spouse who had the affair or for a couple trying to heal from an affair.  BAN is for the betrayed spouse to focus on their healing in a safe environment, similar to Al-Anon.  

To the program that protects the flame of marriage through the darkest, coldest and most storm-ravaged nights – and through the wisdom and generositiy of those that have been there and made it back – provides the shelter, comfort, and support that allows people to not only heal, but to grow even stronger in the broken places. – Smart Marriages Impact Award, San Francisco, July 2008

Beyond Affairs Network (BAN) Mission Statement

To provide an opportunity for people who are dealing with the devastating impact of a spouse’s affair to come together face-to-face, for strength, insight, and mutual support. 

To provide a safe place to share the painful emotions that interfere with recovery and a place to gain perspective and understanding, aimed at thinking more clearly and acting more effectively, in order to proactively move forward, make more informed personal decisions and recover from this experience.

To reinforce people’s own efforts toward recovery, working in conjunction with and not in place of other support they are seeking such as therapy, counseling or marriage healing and strengthening seminars.

To help people reach a point where they are fully healed from the experience and no longer need support.

To become as commonly known about and available worldwide as other major support groups such as Al-Anon, so that no betrayed spouse needs to suffer in isolation.

Click here to listen now to a tele seminar about BAN.
BAN – Beyond Affairs Network. This teleseminar is for every person who is affected by affairs, whether you are a betrayed spouse, the spouse who had the affair, or a professional/support person assisting a couple or individual in healing. Listening is a great way to learn all about BAN. (The first few minutes of the teleseminar there is some static on the line. Just keep listening. It gets clear about 15 minutes into the call.)

BAN is best suited for individuals who are seeking to gain more information, understanding and perspective about the issue of affairs in order to make more informed personal decisions.

BAN Support Groups exist only in cities where someone has volunteered to serve as the local coordinator. Information about the role of the coordinator can be found under “For Coordinators” above. To apply to become a coordinator for your local area, please read all the information about being a coordinator, and then fill in the online application form (link in the side bar to the left).

Cities with BAN Chapters (or which are currently organizing chapters), along with the e-mail address of the coordinator for each city, are on the “List of Cities” (see link in left sidebar).